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How can I let my husband know that I love him even though I had an affair?
I am a Christian, but I made a terrible mistake a couple of years ago. I recently told my husband (who is not a Christian) and he is devistated. I truely do love him and am never going to do it again. I really need advice on how to show or let him know that I do love him…
Thank-you
This can be really tough. My husband had an affair for a couple of months at a time when I thought we were invulnerable. I, too, was devastated. We worked through it. What helped us was my husband was really honest. He answered all my questions and was willing to not only promise to never do it again but to do what ever was necessary to gain my trust back. It was two long difficult years before things began to return to normal. I believe only our love and God got us through it. May I suggest you pray continually and faithfully for God to restore your marriage and for forgiveness from God as well as your husband. God can make miracles happen. Believe.We should have had some Christian counseling, it might have shortened our recovery.
And don’t listen to the naysayers who haven’t been there. Those who show no forgiveness, grace and mercy will receive none.
Hope this helps and God Bless. I’ll keep you and your marriage in my prayers. E-mail me if I can help.
I’m a chaste Christian wife who just found out her husband is having an affair with a man! WWJD? Pls advise?
When I confronted him he showed me passages from the bible that said I should always honor and worship my husband and to forgive him no matter what. Also I made a vow for better or worse in sickness and health so technically I could view his cheating as an illness. Yet I feel so bad when he is in the bedroom with his man friend and I have to sleep on the couch. What should a good Christian wife do? He even said that Pastor Ted’s wife forgave him. What should I do?
Jesus said a man and woman should not divorce, lest it be for fornication reasons.
It is a good thing for you to find it in your heart to forgive your husband for his transgressions toward you,.. But it does not mean you have to put up with his infidelity.
You may want to point out to your husband that in Leviticus 18:22 it is said;
“Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind: it is abomination.”
This being said, you may choose to continue to forgive your husband for the lifestyle he’s living and stay with him or you are now released from the sacraments of your wedding vows because or the fornication he is doing with this other man and if he does not quit this type of lifestyle then you have no other chose then to file for divorce.
If I were you, I would not want to be with a person that could not remain faithful to me,…not with the S.T.D.’s that can be transmitted these days.
my sister’s husband is having an affair?
should I tell my young sister – who was brought up in a good christian home that her husband is cheating on her? he has been having a steady affair with another woman while he is at school here in my town.
Some people may tell you to mind your own business, but I were in your situation I would’ve already told my sister by now. Also if I were the one being cheated on, I would want to be told. Good luck!
Woman who had an affair and child with my husband, invited me to her baby shower for her and her new husband..?
This female was in the navy with him and knew that he was married. I found out about the child in June of 2006 when she 9 months old and at the time he and I had two sons 4 and 2 years old. This was a huge secret that he and his family were keeping and THIS WAS THE ULTIMATE BETRAYAL. We had been married for four years when i found out and it was just sickening to me. Once I confronted him about it, he pleaded and pleaded that she was a one-night-stand and that he had no idea where she was….well through a bit of detective work I found out that she knew that he was married, but pretty much didn’t care. They kept it a secret so that they wouldn’t have to go to Court Martial.
Fast forward after a bit of detective work, I found her number in an old cell phone he left at the house and spoke to her in early November of 2006. Needless to say I found out things that he didn’t want me to know like they were seeing one another for 6 months and she thought that he was going to leave me and our children to be with her. I filed for a divorce (without a lawyer, I was fulled by hurt, anger, and betrayal) 1 week later.
She and I arranged to meet with the kids during Christmas of 2006 and it was one of the most painful things I had to do. Because I am a christian I handled the situation appropriately and did not wild out, I kept my cool. Note: her family had not idea that the childs father was a married man, she just portrayed him as a deadbeat and didn’t inform them of her knowing that he was married all along!
Fast forward to this past summer of 2009….my ex husband has never seen, legitimated or supported the child in any way and doesn’t care to, but he has a great relationship with and supports our sons. She wanted to meet with me and the kids again and was sooooo excited to tell me that she was married and expecting her first child with HER husband. I told her “God bless you and hope your marriage is more blessed than mine was.”
ADDITIONALLY, she invited me to celebrate with her at a baby shower that her family was giving her….what a punch in the gut. Although I told her that I would come, I thought long and hard about it and decided to cut her out of my life. I just didn’t want the strife or the connection anymore. My sons already have to deal with the fact that they don’t have both of their parents in the home, but constantly having to deal with the reason why, for her convenience is something I won’t put myself or them through especially! I really want to send her a message and tell her why I didn’t come, but know that I don’t owe her anything.
I would like to hear different feedback on the matter….thx.
NEW DETAILS: I met with her and the child so that she could put faces to the deciet and hurt she caused by her actions and so that my boys could know that they had a sister and wouldn’t date her…you never know where they could meet up in the future.
I was a christian before this situation happened and it absolutely helped me not to physically hurt this woman and ruin her life…especially her career in the Navy. They have strict policies against these things. Additionally, her current husband has no idea that she knowingly had a child with a married man…I also know that the day will come that she will reap the seed that she showed with my ex-husband one way or another.
Personally I feel you should disembowl her.
With a scorpion.
Twice.
4 yrs ago, my “friends” Husband cheated w/many women. Now shes’ battles to not have Her own affair. Help?
My friend is an amazing & beautiful woman. Shes” successful, has her own business, has a beautiful daughter, hime, etc. But 4 years ago, she really went through an aweful time in her marriage. She found out that during the first 3 years of her marriage, her husband had been sleeping around with random women on his job.
At the time, she had given up her career to stay at home with their daughter.
Since then , she has built her own business from the ground up, carving it around her daughters school days. Shes gone through counseling and therapy, dealing with her husbands affairs.
Because of her religion ( born again christian), she wanted to forgive her husband and try to fight through that time.
My friend has never been with anyone other than her husband, she was a virgin when she got married. But she said that she is really having a hard time lately. She wants to hold her marriage high, regardless of her heartbreak.
Shes a great mom, and a stellar wife. any advice?
Once a cheater always a cheater…..God forgives, I don’t